4 Ways To Build Meaningful Relationships During The Holiday Season

If we’re going to make building meaningful relationships a priority, it’s going to require us to be intentional. It’s easy for our schedules to become full quickly and the first thing to go is usually relationships, especially ones with people you don’t already have a close connection to. 

I didn’t grow up in church and always wanted to hear more about Jesus. But many times, Christians weren’t being intentional about reaching out to me or spending time with me. Since I became a Christian though, I’ve had a passion for making this extra time for those outside “my tribe” a priority.

Here are four easy ways you can start being more intentional without being pushy or jeopardizing your conviction to share your faith:

1. Get Them A Gift

Get them a present for their birthday, their anniversary, or their new baby. If a present may seem like too much, get them a card instead. It doesn’t have to be anything big.  The small gesture can go a long way.

2. Find Ways You Can Serve

As followers of Jesus, we should always be on the look out for ways we can be serving others. If there’s lots of ice patches at your apartment, salt their doorway too. If their carrying in groceries, offer a helping hand. My wife, Felicia has recently offered to tutor some of our neighbors children. She has found a way to use her skills sets in teaching and love for kids to serve and also build a relationship with a new family.

3. Host A Dinner

Everyone eats. And the majority of people I’ve met never turn down a free meal. In many cases, hospitality is that lost art that everyone is craving for deep down. It’s a great way to be intentional with those around you and a great opportunity to spend time getting to know them better. For example, one of our partner organizations will be hosting a Christmas Party this December for their community along with a gift exchange and a short dialogue about the meaning of Christmas.

4. Stop Talking ABOUT Jesus, and Start Speaking OF Him.

Put down the Gospel tracks. Jesus isn’t a theory to be taught or diagramed. He is a person. We should treat Him as such. What has Jesus been doing in your life? How has He actually changed it? Talk about these things.

When it comes down to it, we just need to get out there and love on people. We don’t have to build an orphanage in Africa or run a feeding program in Haiti to change lives. Not that these aren’t making an impact. But sometimes the biggest impact we can make is with the person next door and it can truly be the small things that matter the most. 

Marion Clifton